You don't have to walk this stretch alone.
One-on-one coaching for men in the hard season. Tray has been down this road himself, and he'll walk the next part of it with you.
Coaching is for you if…
- You did the work once, and your life came apart anyway.
- You're tired of being the passive nice guy.
- Your past is running your present, and you can't see how.
- You're carrying something you've never said out loud to another man.
- You're in the middle of a setback (a divorce, a relapse, a lost job) and need a man in your corner.
- You've lost track of who you are and what you're for.
Two things I believe.
Healing is on the other side of pain.
We spend so much energy avoiding pain that we miss the healing we're looking for. The way out is usually through.
Grace wastes nothing.
Whatever life has thrown at you, God uses all of it to make you into the man you were created to be. Nothing is wasted. Not even this.
All four mountains.
Every man's road is different. These are some of the places we go. If yours isn't here, bring it anyway.
- Healing after divorce
- Marriage and hard conversations
- Killing the passive nice guy
- Grief, anger and what's underneath
- Overcoming pornography addiction
- Healthy habits and boundaries
- Getting your energy back
- Rest that actually restores
- Getting unstuck
- Making a hard decision
- The mid-life wilderness
- How your past is shaping your present
- Identity: you are not what you do
- Purpose and calling
- Faith after failure
- Becoming a man other men can lean on
Three steps.
A short application about where you are and where you want to be in 90 days. I read every one.
A free 30-minute discovery call. We'll make sure this is the right fit, for both of us, before anything else.
A three-month coaching engagement: one-on-one time with me, built around the change you want to see by the end of it.
Traylor has a deep and sympathetic understanding of men and marriages in crisis. He's been there himself, and he has a solid grasp on the disciplines that healing and recovery require. I recommend Traylor wholeheartedly as a coach and an articulate catalyst for change.
They say you can only take someone as far as you have been yourself, and I am grateful Tray was qualified to lead me through some deep, dark waters. Where he took me literally saved my life and placed me squarely on the road to recovery, healing, and transformation.
I completed two 4-day intensives with Tray that were absolutely life-changing. Working with Tray was essential to my healing and my personal journey of believing that I am a beloved son of a loving heavenly Father.
Through his work with me individually and also in group settings during weekend intensives, I have grown in my understanding of who I am and Whose I am.
Bring Tray to your men.
Talks, workshops and retreats for men's ministries, churches, teams and conferences. In person or virtual.
- We Need Each Other: Growing in Masculine Community
- Real Men Cry: Emotional Resilience for Men
- Navigating the Wilderness: Overcoming Mid-Life Setbacks
- Masculine Identity: We Are Not What We Do
- The Importance of Practicing Vulnerability
As a speaker and coach, Tray offers his failures and weakness as a genuine way of exemplifying the Father's glory and strength in his own life. … Rarely have I experienced a teacher and leader who truly leads with their limp.
Braveheart and EMBARK are coming back.
Multi-day intensives, away from the noise, with a small band of men doing the deep work together. Nothing is on the calendar yet. Get The Holler and you'll hear first when dates open.
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